Dear Transmen: “Gay Man” Isn’t A Costume
How some trans identified females are fetishizing pretending to be gay men — & further treat it as a costume
It’s like AGP, but for females.
AGP, or autogynephilia, is when a male is aroused by being seen and treated as a woman. Similarly, autoandrophilia (or AAP) is when a female is aroused by being seen and treated as a gay man.
Some argue whether or not these words describe something more akin to a sexual orientation. However, there is no sidestepping the fact that it can sometimes share many similarities with a fetish. It may very well be a benign sexual orientation for some, but for others it is very clearly a kink, and an opportunity to LARP as their sexist and homophobic ideal of what a gay man is:
Gender dysphoria among some homosexuals (and some bisexuals) makes sense. We live in a homophobic society that can make a LGB person internalize that homophobia and feel like the only way to reconcile their same sex attraction or gender nonconformity is if they’re actually the opposite sex.
Attempting to explain gender dysphoria among heterosexuals can get murky. A similar internal struggle with gender nonconformity may very well be the root cause for some. For an overwhelming amount of other heterosexuals, however, identifying as trans is obviously a sexual paraphilia:
Some radical trans activists reject the idea of AGP/AAP. They cite flimsy studies that attempt to “debunk” it. And even if they do accept it, many refuse to believe someone can judge for themselves if a person is identifying as trans to further their kink.
This notion is false. It is a victim blaming, gaslighting, manipulation tactic. It tells women to not trust their instincts for predators and tells homosexuals to not trust their instincts for homophobes.
Women can tell when a male is a predator. Homosexuals can tell when someone is a homophobe. It’s true that our instincts aren’t always right. But our instincts still matter. And so does our safety. To dismiss this in favor of unfettered self ID laws that allow predators to shield themselves within the legitimate trans community and access others spaces is a violation of our human rights.
We can tell. We can tell using our built in danger detection. We can tell by observing the behaviors of the people claiming to share our sex and sexual orientation. We can tell when they dance around admitting it:
The fact is, sometimes it’s very obvious. When trans identified males admit they “realized” they were trans after watching literal hypnosis sissy porn, there’s no question. Likewise, when trans identified females admit they “realized” they were trans gay men after watching fetishistic and pornographic anime like Yaoi, there’s very little question about their motivation for identifying as trans.
For some, they admit to realizing they were trans after not only watching this porn, but becoming openly addicted to it. It’s very clearly an addiction for others, even if they don’t go so far as to admit it:
What’s worse is, this often abusive and disturbingly graphic pornographic content is available to and influencing children:
We as a society must be discussing the effect of porn on not just the trans trend, but on us all. Children as young as 6 are reading Yaoi and discussing it openly on social media.
An entire culture of “BL”, or “boy love”, an extension of Yaoi, is available and recommended by peers in such a way that it can almost be described as grooming — and it seems to target younger kids. It’s an open secret that a large segment of younger trans identified females are reading this pornographic content, creating elaborate TikTok videos showcasing their fantasies of the gay relationships they idealize so much:
A lot of this could be chalked up to teenage obsession. However, some of these same heterosexual trans identified females are the ones that are growing up and demanding access to gay male spaces, acting entitled to reclaim slurs like “faggot”…and instead of using the new, dangerous ease of self identification as a social shield like homosexuals feel forced to do, they now weaponize it to attack others and invade spaces:
Not only do they demand access to our spaces and openly admit to organizing attempts to invade them, they come into gay sex parties and then cry in the bathrooms when they are rejected. They harass and shame gay male sex positive spaces for being male exclusive.
They solicit for online advice with regards to how to coerce gay men to be attracted to their vaginas, making it clear that they know nothing about what it actually means to be a homosexual male:
They even come onto gay dating apps without attempting to transition. Further, we’re somehow the bigots for having an issue with heterosexual women using gay dating apps.
A recent article by some trans identified females, including the notable Buck Angel, discussed how heterosexual AGPs are controlling the trans narrative. I think it’s time we start discussing the fact that heterosexual AAPs are also contributing to that control of the trans narrative.
Some make it quite clear that to them, gay men are a prize to be manipulated and pressured into sleeping with females. Those that don’t comply are bigots and transphobes. The “wrong” kind of gay. Gay men are treated as a commodity, something to emulate, as a trend. Sexual toys to be played with, even if coercion is necessary. And actually being a gay man is just a costume to be taken on and off at will: