Who exactly is erasing trans sexuality…besides trans people themselves?
This is an ideology that sees feminine homosexual men as straight women, and masculine homosexual women as straight men. You go in one end a homosexual and come out the other end straight, albeit with extra steps. And heterosexuals come out the other side pretending that they’re suddenly, somehow, gay.
Did you know? They actually already have a name for people that are attracted to both biological sexes. They’re called “bisexuals”.
So which is it, David? Are you a gay man or a bisexual man? It seems to be a question you refuse to answer.
Interesting.
So you’ll happily advocate for the erasure of homosexuals but won’t state clearly whether or not you would date trans identified females? Woke in the streets, TERF in the sheets, I see.
This is a common trope. You’ll see many homosexuals, bisexuals, and even heterosexuals claim publicly that they would happily date trans identified people — all from the safety and comfort of a lifelong, committed relationship. Or, simply, with absolutely 0 intentions of ever actually doing it. No risk to just say it, right? Not if you don’t have to actually follow through, you see?
Yet an entire segment of the trans community constantly complains about the fact that “cis” people won’t date them, and that they’re transphobic for it. Funny how that works out.
Of course, it’s not always so blatant. Sometimes it’s a bit more subtle. They’ll criticize lesbians who “center their lesbianism around the disgust of penis” or gay men who “act grossed out by vagina”.
Make no mistake about it: this is homophobia and conversion therapy rhetoric at every level. Concealing it under a “woke” label does nothing to erase the damage to homosexuals perpetuated by this toxic, harmful ideology.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but a person that is attracted to both biological males and biological females, no matter their gender identity, is bisexual. By definition. To deny this in favor of “respecting” gender identities is blatant bisexual erasure. And insisting that homosexuals must date trans identified people of the opposite sex to avoid being “transphobic” is homosexual erasure and repackaged rape culture.
We should respect and advocate for trans identified people. That does not mean we should deny biological sex in that attempt to “respect” them. Being kind to others and respecting people is important. However, so is biological sex. It’s not unreasonable, nor transphobic, to prioritize sex over gender, or to acknowledge sex in your sexual orientation.
Real pressure is being put on homosexuals to accept the opposite sex into their sexual orientation in order to validate trans identified people’s gender identities. Ignoring this only turns a blind eye to the most vulnerable people in our community. Pretending it’s a nonissue, or something we are making up in our heads, is gaslighting and abusive. This is the reality that gay men and lesbians alike face: fuck trans people or be labeled a bigot.
Additionally, as an important side note: bisexuals aren’t inherently attracted to trans identified individuals, either. I’ve seen it put this way: bisexuals can like milkshakes. Bisexuals can like steaks. No one has to like steak flavored milkshakes.
Denying that “gay” already has an established, fought for definition, is simply more “woke” homophobia. No, David, gay cannot also mean “same gender attraction”. Gay means “same sex attracted” and insisting that you or anyone has the right to take that away from marginalized groups like homosexuals is bigotry and hatred.
Further, let’s be clear about something: being same sex attracted is not an identity. It’s not something others can simply “identify” their way into. Just like biological sex, it is a state of being, a human reality that at its very foundation, is immutable and biologically programmed.
Of course, there’s always the chance that David doesn’t know what it’s like to have to defend yourself against true bigotry or erasure. He himself has said how easy it is for him to use his privilege to simply “turn the internet off” and step away.
Since this is the case, of course David would feel so little attachment to the label and community that fought for his rights. Of course he, like so many others, would credit transwomen for that, instead. That gets him at least 50 woke points to cash in for validation at the nearest social media.
Always going for the highest score, why would he stop there? Of course trans identified people have it worse than any letter in the acronym. Never mind the fact that in the USA, gay males are the #1 most targeted letter in the acronym for hate crimes and trans people face almost 0 statistical violence…and never mind that in the UK, despite a “trans murder epidemic” claim, a trans person is less likely to be murdered than the average person.
You see, spending time on the internet advocating for how well the gays have it and how terrible trans identified people have it is a great way to pretend you’re an activist. And since the trans community is the new cash grab for LGBT organizations and capitalism as a whole, even at the cost of the people that actually built the community, it’s only logical David and people like him go where the money is.
Of course…there’s always the fear, too. Yes, perhaps that’s it.
It’s the same fear that fuels people to scream from the rooftops how much they would sleep with trans people. To “come out” as the spicy-bisexual that is pansexual. It’s the same fear that stoppers people from saying what they actually think about certain issues surrounding gender ideology.
David could be rightfully afraid of the backlash he would receive if he actually stood his ground and defended homosexual’s and women’s rights. Scared to lose his money, fame and success for being the “wrong” kind of homosexual…unashamed of being exclusively same sex attracted, proud to be gay, and unafraid to say it openly in spite of what others think.
Or, maybe, he just doesn’t know?
Maybe he’s not aware that having gender critical approaches doesn’t inherently mean hating trans identified people. Maybe he doesn’t know about the pressure being put on kids to identify as trans and to be bisexual. Could it be that he simply hasn’t been told about the lesbians being harassed for not liking “ladydiq”, or the women’s shelters being shut down and vandalized for being “cis” only, or gay male sex positive spaces being attacked for not inviting in trans identified females? Surely he’s just not up to date on the fact he’s relentlessly smeared a gay man despite the truth being so readily available?
No. This is giving far too much credit to a man that is willing to, under the guise of inclusivity, erase what others fought for. People have tried to inform David Paisley. He has chosen to ignore the people he is hurting so that he can take the easy route. The path of least resistance. Why actually stand for something when you can just pretend to for TV interviews and internet articles?
David Paisley is conning the gay community. He is either a bisexual that is masquerading as a gay man, or a gay man that is pulling the wool over the rest of the communities eyes. Convincing them, and himself, that we are the bigots, and that he is on the right side of history.
As a homosexual man myself that has spent years identifying as transgender, I no longer feel comfortable being on the side of history that threatens women’s rights and erases homosexuals, because that simply isn’t right. So how can it be the right side of history?
If you ask me, someone that seems to accept both males and females into his sexual orientation yet calls himself a gay man is not a good representation for neither gay people or bisexual people. David Paisley is the bisexual representation no one wanted, no one asked for…but he’s what we’re stuck with.
Believe it or not, I actually know what that feels like.
There’s always still a chance to join the right side of history, though.
Rarely is there never an opportunity to come back from the brink. There is a middle ground that can be reached. When addressing the more extreme parts of gender ideology, we must remember to focus on preserving biological sex, single sex spaces, and homosexuality.
We must continue to form organizations that advocate for the specific and unique needs of same sex attracted individuals. We must continue to forge safe spaces for homosexuals. We must continue to remind ourselves, and the world, that it’s okay to be gay. It’s good to be gay.